Intimacy with another is one of life’s true wonders. They feel connected to you in every way and they are the one you can lean on. We can build it, but just as quickly it can fade.
Criticism is a huge repel of intimacy. When we begin to criticize their thoughts and actions when we normally wouldn’t, they give back what they are receiving. Reality will always reflect back what you put out.
If your motive behind what you say and do at a certain moment is malicious and hurtful, they are going to give that right back to you. It is a never ending cycle until it reaches a blow up or either partner can become aware of what is happening. Cultivating and keeping that intimacy is through the art of maintaining your motive of how you are interacting with them.
It is not rocket science, but it can be difficult to embody. Theres going to be moments where you act out and will lose some intimacy, but you can grab it right back. If you can come from a place of love and honesty.